恋爱十宗罪：你是否也犯过这些错？.doc

恋爱十宗罪:你是否也犯过这些错?恋爱十宗罪
10 Ways We Hurt Our Romantic Relationships
恋爱十宗罪:我们是如何毁了爱情?
It's not easy to have a great relationship with your boy/girlfriend, partner, or spouse. Here are a few of the things that cause people to destroy their own relationships.
想要维系和恋人、伴侣或爱人的感情并不是一件容易的事情。人们是这样毁了他们的爱情的:
're playing to win
你们总是想要赢对方
One of the deadliest killers of relationships is petitive urge, the attitude that the relationship itself is a kind of game that you're tying to win. People petitive relationships are always looking for an advantage, the upper hand, some edge they can hold over their partner's head.
爱情的一大致命杀手就是竞争欲望:把感情当作比赛,总是想要赢过对方。处在竞争关系中的人总是想要寻找自己的优势,占尽上风,尽握对方的把柄。
don't trust
你们不信任彼此
There are two aspects of trust that are important in relationships. One is trusting your partner enough to know that s/he won't cheat on you or otherwise hurt you — and to know that he or she trusts you that way, too. The other is trusting them enough to know they won't leave you or stop loving you no matter what you do or say.
感情的信任包括两层含义:足够信任你的伴侣,明白他不会欺骗也不会伤害你,同时也了解他也是如此的信任着你;足够信任你的爱人,明白不管你说什么做什么,他都不会离开或者不再爱你。
3. You don't talk
你们不交流
Too many people hold their tongues about things that bother or upset them in their relationship, either because they don't want to hurt their partner, or because they're trying to win. Ultimately, keeping quiet reflects a