不爱说话的原因.doc

不爱说话的原因
[teacher] steel sub studio reporter compiled in April 27, 2010, Xiamen Hayman rhenium counseling agencies and sson does not love to speak or not good at speaking, he is not like the others have no way to complete the "individual tasks by speaking to the expression of inner feelings, opinions and thoughts? Or is it possible that he would not be willing to say that? Perhaps he didn't think it was good for him to say it by talking, that is, not speaking, he was the best choice.
The best choice for some individuals is not to speak, or to be said "not to speak”. As a psychologist, Zhang Jingang was willing to believe it.
Let's imagine that a person's early experience of these scenes follows:
when he / she was a child, he was very willing to express ideas and needs, to their parents and family relatives but, if the child is always needed by family because of the expression of criticism and opposition, so the child will have an idea of the unconscious: expression is needed not good,
Will be punished:
he may be very small, very willing to express their opinions and ideas, but rarely receive relatives and family response, so the child will be the expression of desire "to respond and concern" indifferent child phagocytosis, this concept in the unconscious, and the expression is I need not to be needed and no value.
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